From
David Still
<ds@davidstill.org>
To
jovian francey
<jf@artstar.com>
Re:
something to confess
MESSAGE
jovian francey wrote: hi david, i got you! :) i'm straight too though also not homophobic.. and while you're an attractive guy, dave, i'm sorry, you're just missing some of the things i look for in a partner.. the letter you received is my "generic love letter" that i wrote for a spoken word night.. much like the "this will never end" pre-written message available from your site, there is almost nothing specific.. and on careful reading, it reveals all sorts of dysfunctional neuroses (only some of which are actually descriptive of me).. so yes, your analysis was quite accurate.. one of my roommates received the "this will never end" e-mail and became immediately concerned that she had a deranged stalker on her hands.. she actually roused us all from trying to sleep through our hangovers at the ungodly hour of 11am to share her panic.. fortunately, by pointing out the vagueness of the words and by directing her to your site, i was able to alleviate her concerns.. however, we thought we'd have a bit of fun and send our own confession of adoration back.. thank you so much for your concern though.. very kind and thoughtful of you.. it demonstrates that your intentions with your more-or-less anonymous e-mailer are not malicious.. your site is quite hilarious.. if i really was going to be someone else, i wouldn't mind being an IT professional in the Netherlands, living on Reality Street.. undying love & devotion (heh heh), - jove --- Original Message --- > hi jovian, > > that was an amazing love letter you wrote me, but, uh, i don't think we've met! sorry, but you've got the wrong david. > > i really hope that someone's not playing a joke on you by giving you my email. you seem like a really nice person who's really infatuated with someone, to the point where you're extremely vulnerable to any kind of malicious little prank. i guess i've just seen a lot of friends hurt in situations like this, and even though i don't know you, i want things to work out well for you. i feel a little foolish giving you advice, because i don't even know you. but for what it's worth: if you are mostly in contact with someone by email and not in person, it's really easy for your imagination to run wild, and trick you into thinking that you're soulmates with someone. i speak from experience here. i met a girl at a party (yes, i'm straight but not homophobic by any stretch) who seemed really great and we had this amazing year-long courtship by phone and email. she moved up here to be with me, and real soon we found out that it just wasn't working out. i think my poor lonely mind had somehow managed to fill in all the blank spots in my knowledge of her with the best possible "information", you know? certainly a person's intelligence and sense of humor will come through over email or whatever, but it's actually the day-to-day way a person lives their life that really determines whether you get along or not. that's a lot more important than the intellectual stuff in my opinion, and i don't have really good words for it, except to talk about a person's "vibe" and things like that. > > but hey, i don't want to be a buzzkill either, and you know what they say, "it's better to have loved and lost..." just be careful jovian, because you seem like a real sweet person who's easily hurt. > > if any of this seems off base, i'm sorry. i just felt i had to say something. here's wishing that you find your real david soon, and have the best of luck when you find him! ;-) > > i drink a toast to your luck in love my friend jovian, wherever you are!!! > > best wishes, > david (still)