From
David Still
<ds@davidstill.org>
To
Jennifer Balderama
<blogjen@yahoo.com>
Re:
your blog
MESSAGE
Jennifer Balderama wrote: You should publish this as a checklist on your Web site. Perhaps like a Cosmo quiz: "I Do or I Dump?" Why go see a shrink or a couples counselor when the ladies of the Web could have you? --- David Still
wrote: > I am not a beast and can well unde3stand that > convention ties you to one you have been going with > and thus it would seem "immoral" to involve yourself > with someone you have not even met in the flesh. > For this I honor and respect you. It makes winning > you even more a worthwhile goal. > > I will but ask you to consider this. When you shop > for shoes, do you look at a few and make a quick > choice or do you believe in looking about not only > at many but in different stores? The "stores" so to > speak may be limited out your way--thus a more > extensive search might uncover something that is > truyly a good fit. > Experiment: how well do you get on with your guy? > Do you quarrel about this and that? If you quarrel, > how long before you two make up? Would he send you > flowers eveery week? Can you imagine living with > him for say 40 years? What annoys youy about him? > Will this build up over time? What pleases you > about him? Is it central or but supeficial? > If you have children with Mr Wonderful, would he > be a good father? Why do you so? Does he walk arm > and arm with you in public no matter whre you are > going? If not, why? These may strikeyou as perhaps > supervficiaol things but they are markers along the > path! > Next time you are "close" to him, consider how > much of the sameness of his lovemaking you can > antidipate over an extended period. Is this to be > your future? Perhaps all is ok. And if so, then > certainly stay with your choice. But.... > Jennifer Balderama wrote: > But alas, I belong to another. My heart is being > wrenched in a gazillion ways.