From
David Still
<ds@davidstill.org>
To
Ann Eckels
<playstrings@webtv.net>
Re:
Job advice
MESSAGE
Ann Eckels wrote: Well, actually it doesn't help. I don't want a handout - I want to earn some money. As I said, I have a part time job. I have also had 4 interviews in the past few weeks. I have a few job offers in S.D. county which begin Sept. 1. I also will still be working for the school district but with less hrs. and on an independent contractor status. Unfortunately, I don't begin until October. I am doing whatever I can to earn money. Each day, my son and I take a walk and pick up recycle items off the sidewalks and streets. This earns me 5 to 10 bucks per week which I use to buy gas. I am also doing a market research focus group tomorrow night. I could tell you my whole story and explain why I am not working full time right now, but you would think I was "bitching" and I just want to state the fact that I need to earn money now to pay bills in the next 2 weeks; money I have coming to me in Sept. will not help now. I did not put the ad under jobs as I think they charge $25 for that (maybe it is just for San Diego - I go back and forth so much between cities, that I don't know.) Also, there is no an employment wanted section. A temp. agency cannot help me to find the kind of flexible schedule I need. I teach violin lessons at a music store 5 days a week (hence the 10 hours.) At times, I have seen ads for people wanting someone to clean their house or work in the yard one time so I thought someone out there might appreciate my services. I guess I did not really need to mention that I am off for the summer etc., ect. I certainly didn't want come off as though I am begging for help like these people who ask strangers to loan them large sums of money. Maybe I will change the ad tonight when I get home from work. (I guess you did help a little as it made think about that - thanks!) Now here is some advice for you about getting along with other people in the world: you should not just judge people so quickly without knowing the facts. You've basically accused me of being lazy and you probably think I am fat and watch soap operas all day. You have judged me to be guilty of a crime I have not committed. Also, if my ad bothers you, you could be more tactful about your suggestions. (I cannot help but wonder WHY it bothers you.) Anyway, if you talked to anyone who knows me well, they'd tell you that I am one of the hardest working woman they know and that I often hold down 3 to 4 jobs at once. (the aforementioned circumstances that we aren't discussing lest I should be "bitching" prevented that this summer.) Sometimes in life we encounter difficult times and we must overcome them in life and go on - thus my ad so perhaps I can earn some money. (So, far, I have managed to stay out of the unemployment line this summer.) I suspect that you are probably actually a pretty nice guy & something about my ad just set you off. My ex-boyfriend once replied to a woman who wanted to give men massages and was seemingly looking for a "sugar daddy." He called her a whore. Well, we had a shared email address and because I paid the web tv bill, only my name was on it so she thought it was from me, since he didn't sign his name. She put a search in for my name and found out that I ran in the Jimmy Stewart Marathon Relay and that I teach music lessons. She wrote to me and said she was going to talk to one of the race directors whom she knew about me and could such a seemingly compassionate person be such a bitch. Her mom had just been diagnosed with cancer and the comments my boyfriend made just made her day that much worse. Needless to say I got him his own email address` after that. I tried to get him to apologize to the lady but he wouldn't and he said that if she put an ad like that out there she is fair game. (as I guess am I ) I don't even know if you will read this lengthy email as I if you are a typical man, you'd have preferred that I'd just gotten right to the general point, but I am a woman and LOVE details! At any rate, writing this made me feel better (not as good as if you had a job or me though,) and I am no longer pissed off at you an in fact I am starting to have a sense of humor about this . Thanks for the distraction away from my problems. Regards, Ann